SafetyWeb Twitter Party Transcript with 5MinutesforMom and Annie Fox #SafetyWeb

Here the full transcript of our @SafetyWeb Twitter Party hosted by Annie Fox and 5MinutesforMom last week!

safetyweb: Hello everyone! Glad you're here with us.

safetyweb: We have SafetyWeb Certificates to give away. Each for a 6-month SafetyWeb subscription good for up to 2 children.

Annie_Fox: Welcome everyone to our first twitter party. Tonite's focus: on #OnlineSafety

5minutesformom: @annie_fox Thanks Annie for leading this important discussion

Annie_Fox: Sure thing! I'm so glad #cyberbullying is beginning to get the attention it deserves.

Annie_Fox: New school year and hopefully schools and parents are more aware of the potential problems w/uneducated online use.

Annie_Fox: And that's what it is on the part of the kids... they're just uneducated.

5minutesformom: @annie_fox Yes, with a new start to school, it is definitely time to pay extra attention to our kids web use.

Annie_Fox: @5minutesformom Absolutely! And yet they want and deserve some privacy as they get older. It's a balancing act!

Annie_Fox: Love to take some questions from parents about bullying related issues. Who's got a question?

5minutesformom: @annie_fox What is a first hint that your child might be getting in trouble online?

Annie_Fox: @5minutesformom Gr* question, Susan! There's no one correct "hint" but I'd say if the kid becomes increasingly secretive that may be a sign that there's something going on w/in their circle of friends online that they're uncomfortable with. Thus hiding.

Annie_Fox: When your gut tells you something's up... open your mouth and talk about what you're feeling and observing. That's proactive

5minutesformom: @annie_fox Do you advise parents to secretly read their children's emails?

Annie_Fox: @5minutesformom NO! You want to build trust. And snooping w/out "due cause" is going to erode all trust. SIGH...

RobynsWorld: @5minutesformom I don't think parents should secretly read emails - they should openly do it & let the kids know they are

Annie_Fox: Good rule of thumb... If you're kid has a track record of making good choices then why snoop? Don't parent from a "fear" place. It really pollutes relationships

5minutesformom: @annie_fox I agree... trust is so important. It's a terrible feeling to imagine someone is reading our emails.

Annie_Fox: @5minutesformom You know trust is a 2-way street. And you need to be trustworthy in the eyes of your child too.

5minutesformom: I've wondered about telling kids you might monitor their emails in similar manner to an employer.

Annie_Fox: @5minutesformom It's an interesting tactic. Keep 'em alert. I think it makes sense to educate kids about "appropriate" online.

fredo: I'm happy to answer some questions - Mike & I founded SafetyWeb because we are both dads and want our kids to be safe online.

iTwixie: @fredo OMG I'm so glad I've stumbled upon you!

Annie_Fox: @iTwixie we are glad too!

fredo: @iTwixie I'm glad, too!

5minutesformom: @iTwixie Yes, sometimes your "gut feeling" is the best indicator.

Annie_Fox: @5minutesformom Yes, trust your gut, but also give the kids clear expectations and boundaries.

5minutesformom: @annie_fox Yes, expectations and boundaries are always important when parenting and online it is critical.

iTwixie: We're all about safety at iTwixie - so many girls we have joining say FB freaked 'em out!

safetyweb: Follow @fredo Co-founder of SafetyWeb! He is here to answer your questions.

crisgoode: @annie_fox in the same vein of emails, what r ur recommendations for Facebook?

Annie_Fox: @crisgoode Good question! How old is the child? If (s)he is under 14 she shouldn't be an FB.

crisgoode: @annie_fox Asking mainly for teens. Not my own- she is 3 and FB free. My friends often ask me regarding their teens

Annie_Fox: Chris, if the child is old enough to have a FB account, how about adding the parent as a friend. Are the kids willing to do that?

Annie_Fox: @crisgoode It's good for parents of teens to talk w/other parents of teens. Find out what they're comfortable with. Take your cues from them.... but stick with your values as a parent! You don't owe your child the right to be on FB as a 14 yr. old.

5minutesformom: @annie_fox Should you discuss with your kids the legal ramifications of #cyberbullying etc

Annie_Fox: 5minutesformom Yes. They need to know there's no free pass to being mean and/or reckless online. Cyberbullying is a crime.

safetyweb: Who would like to try SafetyWeb for free?

5minutesformom: @annie_fox I think even adults do not realize how serious cyberbullying is

Annie_Fox: @5minutesformom Teens should know the consequences of their choices. You tell them what will happen if they drive & speed, right? Info empowers

5minutesformom: @annie_fox Have you seen many cases actually go to trial regarding #cyberbullying

Annie_Fox: @5minutesformom The Phoebe Prince case is a prominent one currently being adjudicated. 23 defendants I believe!

Annie_Fox: NYT article about the Phoebe Prince case http://www.nytimes.com/2010/09/16/us/16bully.html

DrLynneKenney: Join @Annie_Fox !I am so pleased. Wasn't sure of the time. A great resource for all! @SafetyWeb & @5minutesforMom

5minutesformom: @DrLynneKenney Great to have you here.

5minutesformom: @RobynsWorld Thanks Girl. Glad to have you in the discussion.

safetyweb: One of our parent resources- Stop Cyberbullying — Guide for Parents http://www.safetyweb.com/cyberbully

Annie_Fox: @5minutesformom Another resource, "Cyberbullying Investigated" Gr8 book for t(w)eens! About legal right/consequences http://bit.ly/b6zKOb

DrLynneKenney: RT @iTwixie: @DrLynneKenney Gr8 to see u! #Tweetchat has changed having trouble signing in so happy to see u too!

lcabreradelcid: NYT article about the Phoebe Prince case http://www.nytimes.com/2010/09/16/us/16bully.html (via @Annie_Fox)

iTwixie: What do you think about role-playing how to deal with cyber bullies?

5minutesformom: @annie_fox ...but they can sign up on FB without you knowing... right?

DrLynneKenney: They just need an email

Annie_Fox: @5minutesformom Yep, they can. Look if you want to do a power struggle w/a teen you will ALWAYS lose. Don't go there!

5minutesformom: @annie_fox Oh yes, the power struggles. I'm already losing those and my girls haven't hit 6.

Annie_Fox: @5minutesformom LOL!

RobynsWorld: You really have to be firm on internet rules and don't give in - not power struggle, just parenting

Annie_Fox: Developmentally, teens are prone to high risk behaviors. They love the challenge of trying to outsmart you. Don't bite. Be open

bexperspective: You know I think people will always make their own decisions but I hope to help keep them more informed on safety...

5minutesformom: @annie_fox So to monitor FB, is it enough to just have them "friend" you?

Annie_Fox: Hey tweeps... we're having a twitter party here. Got chocolate chip cookies going around. And info on #cyberSafety. Come join!

Annie_Fox: @5minutesformom Yes! then you will see what they're putting out in the "public" space. Exactly the stuff you want to talk about.

5minutesformom: @RobynsWorld You sound like you're good at laying down the law... wanna come visit my girls when they hit 14? LOL

Annie_Fox: @RobynsWorld You rock, Robyn. All this stuff really isn't a tech. issue. It's a parenting issue.

DrLynneKenney: @annie_fox We have strong opinions and judgments but the reality is that kids who r left out get bullied. & FB is now a way to get left out

Annie_Fox: @DrLynneKenney You're right, sadly. :O(

5minutesformom: @annie_fox Besides FB and emails what are the other main spots we should watch for #cyberbullying?

safetyweb: First person to Tweet, "I want to make sure my child stays safe online" wins a free 6 month SafetyWeb subscription.

goodlaura: RT @5minutesformom: Do you have questions abt how to keep yr child safe online? Ask @annie_fox now. #onlinesafety #cyberbullying

DrLynneKenney: RT @Dayngr: RT @5minutesformom: RT @annie_fox: We need to give parents words to be helpful to their kids. Most parents get angry

iTwixie: Accepting friends from the "wrong crowd" on FB can foster negative exposure without any messaging. What to do about that?

Annie_Fox: @iTwixie Let's talk about friendship! What are you teaching your kids about Real friends vs. the Other Kind?

safetyweb: Facebook and Your Privacy http://www.safetyweb.com/facebook-privacy

5minutesformom: @DrLynneKenney Yes, FB is another way for kids to feel "left out". I can't even imagine having FB in my school days.

DrLynneKenney: @5minutesformom I am learning this is a tuff topic to tweet about u need paragraphs:) not 140 chars

Annie_Fox: Here's a #Parenting article on Friendship lessons. http://bit.ly/cKyPgZ

Annie_Fox: @5minutesformom What if PTA took up the whole subject of FB? That would be an interesting mtg.!

5minutesformom: @DrLynneKenney Yes, it's a true Twitter challenge... 140 char to discuss huge issues bit by bit

DrLynneKenney: @safetyweb I am so happy to know of u! TY to @annie_fox for bringing u front of mind

elisatalk: RT @Annie_Fox: Teens are prone to high risk behaviors. They love the challenge of trying to outsmart you. Don't bite. Be open

iTwixie: @Annie_Fox Excellent point, Annie! FB is a gr8 reason to talk about being choosey about who u really call "friend."

anne_barbano: Hi @Annie_Fox there isn't a lot of literature on this subject #FB for your teen.How would parents know what info to seek on this?

Annie_Fox: @anne_barbano I'd google Parent resources cyberbullying OR Parent support teens online I'd also go direct to FB 4 policy info

DrLynneKenney: @annie_fox @dshepherds can educate parents in LA for free. Tshaka is amazing!

Annie_Fox: @DrLynneKenney How do you protect your child online, Lynne?

DrLynneKenney: Their stuff comes to my phone all day everyday BUT I know there remain risks. Sometimes I even feel scared about their future

RobynsWorld: @5minutesformom It is really hard, my son (15) complains constantly about parental controls - tough tooties I tell him!

5minutesformom: @RobynsWorld I can just hear you saying that. LOL

RobynsWorld: @Annie_Fox I agree - much more a parenting than a tech issue - you need to know some tech, but setting limits is parenting

Annie_Fox: @RobynsWorld You might ask your son "What would you do if...?" and test him on some hypotheticals.

Annie_Fox: @RobynsWorld That might put your mind at ease, or not, as to whether he has the good judgment to manage his online life wisely

iTwixie: We tell our kids, "If it makes u feel uncomfortable, get out of the chat/off the site/x out of the page"

gooblythe: RT @safetyweb: 1st person to Tweet, "I want to make sure my child stays safe online" wins a free 6 month SafetyWeb subscription.

DrLynneKenney: "I want to make sure my child stays safe online"

safetyweb: @DrLynneKenney You're our first winner!

5minutesformom: @DrLynneKenney Congrats on winning!

DrLynneKenney: @5minutesformom TY for being here to support families!

Annie_Fox: @DrLynneKenney YAY, Lynne!

gooblythe: @annie_fox Facebook and the PTA joined forces! http://bit.ly/aI707q

Annie_Fox: @gooblythe FB and PTA! That's GREAT news!!

Annie_Fox: We also need to make sure we're also aware of the kinds of communications coming down on OUR kid's cell

5minutesformom: @annie_fox Oh yes... text msgs can be the worst. We posted about the dangers of sexting recently

Annie_Fox: Parents need to give kids clear instructions about their behavior when you handed them a cell phone of their own.

Dayngr: @annie_fox Cell phone? I don't see a reason for a child to have one. Do you?

Annie_Fox: @Dayngr I agree... but 9 and 10 yr olds are getting them.

5minutesformom: @Dayngr I think cell phones can be good for safety, but not having a text plan and not a camera.

emilyrosedoll: told my 12 year-old she can have a cell phone when she can pay for it

5minutesformom: @emilyrosedoll LOL. But your daughter can probably pay for it soon since she does run a business with you.

emilyrosedoll: @5minutesformom- LOL we put her business earnings straight in to a Roth IRA she'll get a cell phone at 65

RobynsWorld: @Annie_Fox The mature part of our son understands the rules and agrees, but sometimes that teen just wants to be free-er LOL

iTwixie: What about boys & girls texting each other... when is it appropriate?

Annie_Fox: Don't assume they "know" what's appropriate online or via text msg. They DON"T! Their "norm" is often meanness

DrLynneKenney: Digital Safety Talk NOW #Moms @dshepherds JOIN @annie_fox and now on tweetchat for our kids safety

lcabreradelcid: great topic

iTwixie: @Safetyweb rocks!

5minutesformom: @annie_fox Should we ask our kids to tell us if they notice someone ELSE being bullied online?

Dayngr: @5minutesformom Great question! So important too. We dealt with bullying last year!

Annie_Fox: @5minutesformom Telling an adult about someone who is being bullied is the RIGHT thing to do! It's not "tattling"

5minutesformom: @annie_fox I agree. I hate it when people discourage kids "tattling". Speaking up is so important and hard for kids to do.

emilyrosedoll: @5minutesformom YES - everyone should tell an adult when they witness bullying. Tough job though.

Dayngr: @Annie_Fox I know. I just don't know if we should go that route. I think it opens them up to too much too soon. #AgeAppropriate

5minutesformom: @Dayngr Do you mean your child had an issue with bullying recently?

Annie_Fox: @Dayngr Research says that when the "by-standers" feel empowered to report bullying, bullies lose their power to torment.

Dayngr: @Annie_Fox That's good news about bystanders feeling empowered to help.

iTwixie: @Dayngr Bullying can destroy a kid's week, month, year... life! This is important stuff!

5minutesformom: So True -> RT @iTwixie: @Dayngr Bullying can destroy a kids week, month, year... life! This is important stuff!

Annie_Fox: @5minutesformom Yes, speaking up and doing the right thing is hard.. for adults too! We don't often model social responsibility

CafeSmom: @iTwixie A friend checked her 11 yo DD phone and was mortified and what she found. Couldn't believe the texts she got/sent

lcabreradelcid: @cafesmom Starting to get horrified...

Annie_Fox: @cafesmom Sounds like your friend hadn't given her daughter any guidelines. Why be surprised about kids' ignorance?

CafeSmom: @Annie_Fox She HAD given her guidelines and that's what made it worse. This is a mom who is involved. Thought she could trust her

DrLynneKenney: : SOOO grateful for you all I admit - our tweens r exposed to stuff I didnt know til I was 19 @annie_fox

GOTR_Chicago: RT @iTwixie: We tell our kids, "If it makes u feel uncomfortable, get out of the chat/off the site/x out of the page"

outgirlbox: RT @iTwixie: We tell our kids, "If it makes u feel uncomfortable, get out of the chat/off the site/x out of the page"

5minutesformom: @emilyrosedoll I LOVE it. Fantastic.

DrLynneKenney: @lcabreradelcid I agree the camera caused a BIG problem

5minutesformom: @DrLynneKenney Yes, the cameras on the phones are the biggest danger!!! Combining photos and texts gets dangerous fast.

lcabreradelcid: @DrLynneKenney everyone has a camera nowadays...your picture could be taken and uploaded without u even knowing

CafeSmom: @lcabreradelcid I'm the "mean" mom who won't let my kids get cell phones.

anne_barbano: @Annie_Fox thank you! What an intg tweetchat Usually I can't follow them closely . (full disclosure)

safetyweb: Another free 6 month SafetyWeb subscription...

safetyweb: Parenting: How Young is Too Young For a Cell Phone? http://blog.safetyweb.com/parenting-how-young-is-too-young-for-a-cell-phone/

iTwixie: @CafeSmom Exactly! Is there an age that's developmentally on target for kids to boy/girl text?

Annie_Fox: @iTwixie b/g texting is not any different from first crushes, etc. usually around 6th grade is when it starts. for some earlier.

5minutesformom: RT @safetyweb: Another free 6 month SafetyWeb subscription...

iTwixie: @emilyrosedoll We gave in at 13 - a good milestone - we all signed a contract, we put the phone in a basket at night...

lcabreradelcid: @cafesmom it's so easy to fall under the pressure though...right?

Annie_Fox: @dr_aletta Thanks for RT. Enough fear mongering in our political realm. don't need it at home in our families.

DrLynneKenney: @lcabreradelcid What a messy world.

Dayngr: @5minutesformom Yes! It was awful!! It took almost 6 mos to get resolved in the school system. (it was offline)

CafeSmom: @Annie_Fox her DD lost her phone and other priviledges over that

5minutesformom: @Dayngr Yikes... how awful.

Dayngr: @5minutesformom Excellent point re: phone for safety.

gooblythe: @annie_fox I have friends who cannot pry their kids away from their phones. What can they do?

Annie_Fox: @cafesmom Well, it sounds like the daughter was pressured to disregard what she knew was rightl. Kids R so vulnerable to friends

lcabreradelcid: RT @5minutesformom: RT @safetyweb: Parenting: How Young is Too Young For a Cell Phone? http://snipurl.com/15ove2

emilyrosedoll: @iTwixie not sure when mine would use it. They aren't allowed them at school (of course).

Annie_Fox: @cafesmom Good move. Hope the Loss of privileges is temporary and the kid can earn them back w/exemplary behavior.

CafeSmom: My other friend knows her DD will be to tempted and won't give her "the opportunity to fail" so no cell phone for her

lcabreradelcid: @emilyrosedoll good for that school

Dayngr: @5minutesformom Yes! I blogged it. http://bit.ly/b7VOMj

5minutesformom: I remember a messy bullying issue when I was 12 yrs & school was involved, yet I don't think my parents even knew. Stay involved!

Annie_Fox: @Dayngr Yes, but it takes bystander "training" and a school culture (adults) that makes it safe for them to speak up.

CafeSmom: @Annie_Fox that's it. Peer pressure can be so strong. Teaching my kids to stand up not fit in

safetyweb: @RobynsWorld You win!

lcabreradelcid: RT @annie_fox: @cafesmom Good move. Hope the Loss of privileges is temporary and the kid can earn them back w/exemplary behavior.

iTwixie: @emilyrosedoll We love having the connection for activities & it's the best thing to take away-she's so motivated to behave now!

SMLCFH: @safetyweb just missed it!

Dayngr: @Annie_Fox I am all for promoting that and getting it in our school, a charter.

Annie_Fox: @5minutesformom 12 yr olds are notorious cruel. it's a Lord of the Flies world!

Dayngr: @iTwixie It sure can. My son was miserable.

lcabreradelcid: @5minutesformom I never told mine anything...how do you create those lines of communication?

RobynsWorld: @safetyweb WooHoo!

iTwixie: @CafeSmom My other girl feels we "care about her" enough not to give her a cell phone yet! Could u die? Rare bird.

DrLynneKenney: RT @annie_fox: @5minutesformom 12 yr olds are notorious cruel. it's a Lord of the Flies world! I hated that movie.

Annie_Fox: @gooblythe Who's paying for that phone ??? Mom, right? What's with they "I can't pry it from her!" You OWN the phone!

emilyrosedoll: @iTwixie - I guess so - but do you let her call her friends?

safetyweb: "------" simply refers to the act of bullying online. Fill in the blank and you win!

gooblythe: @emilyrosedoll You're lucky! http://bit.ly/ccoKRb

iTwixie: @Dayngr LOLOL!

Annie_Fox: This gets into the "I don't want to be upsetting my little princess." Can't take away her phone. SHe'd hate me. Can't have that.

emilyrosedoll: @lcabreradelcid do other schools allow it?

DrLynneKenney: RT @cafesmom: Rosalind Wisemans book Queen Bees and Wanna Bees give good dialogue for parents

iTwixie: @emilyrosedoll Ready? Only from the kitchen (we're brutal).

lcabreradelcid: @emilyrosedoll where I come from, some do

DrLynneKenney: RT @cafesmom: @Annie_Fox I like her SOCIALIZE WITH DIGNITY idea and am using it at home now w our 10 and 12 yr old

RobynsWorld: @safetyweb cyberbullying

gooblythe: @annie_fox He might be paying for it with a part-time job. Not sure...but he uses it constantly- even at dinner!

5minutesformom: @annie_fox Yes 12 yr olds can be brutal

emilyrosedoll: @gooblythe that is awful! I can't believe they would allow them in class?

DrLynneKenney: @iTwixie: @annie_fox: @gooblythe Who's paying for that phone. What's with they "I can't pry it from her!" You OWN the phone!

Annie_Fox: Rosalind Wiseman rocks! My interview w/her http://blog.anniefox.com/2009/12/07/podcast-queen-bees-go-hi-tech/

Annie_Fox: @gooblythe If the kid is texting at dinner then his parents are (pardon my French) wimps.

RobynsWorld: @DrLynneKenney Many providers will let you place a phone account "on hold" if your teen is grounded from it - call & ask

gooblythe: @annie_fox How does one "spy" on their child's cell phone? Isn't that an invasion of privacy? What about trust?

SMLCFH: @5minutesformom cyberbullying

5minutesformom: ROFL -> RT @annie_fox: @gooblythe If the kid is texting at dinner then his parents are (pardon my French) wimps.

SMLCFH: @safetyweb cyberbullying

iTwixie: @Annie_Fox Texting at dinner/at parties/when peeps are visiting is a big no-no. Chez moi, phones go in the basket... even urs!

Annie_Fox: @gooblythe I hate the word "spy" Parents shouldn't spy on their kids. It destroys trust. We need to talk to them about their life

DrLynneKenney: RT @gooblythe: @annie_fox How does one "spy" on their child's cell phone? Invasion of privacy? What about trust?

safetyweb: @lcabreradelcid You win!

lcabreradelcid: RT @gooblythe: @annie_fox How does one "spy" on their child's cell phone? Isn't that an invasion of privacy? What about trust?

lcabreradelcid:

Annie_Fox: We need to give them reasons to put down the phone and engage in conversations that mean something to them. Not just LECTURES

5minutesformom: RT @iTwixie: @Annie_Fox Texting at dinner/parties/when peeps visiting is a big no-no. Chez moi, phones go in basket... even urs!

DrLynneKenney: @mommyrevenu @annie_fox: Did you give your child clear instructions about their behavior when you handed him/her a cell phone ?

iTwixie: @Annie_Fox What about openly disclosing that u will be reading texts/messages?

emilyrosedoll: @iTwixie - love the phones go in the basket. Can you speak to my husband about that rule

lcabreradelcid: Yay! Nice RT @safetyweb: @lcabreradelcid You win!

5minutesformom: RT @annie_fox: @gooblythe I hate word "spy" Parents shouldnt spy on kids. It destroys trust. talk to them about their life

RobynsWorld: @DrLynneKenney Our family therapist told us about that

Annie_Fox: It's a process, this parenting thing. An art, not a science. Lead with your heart, and LISTEN more than you talk (to tweens)

Annie_Fox: @emilyrosedoll phones in basket it a great rule!

iTwixie: @emilyrosedoll LOL! Yes! It really works! Kids love it, too. No one likes a bff texting while hanging out. No one.

5minutesformom: @emilyrosedoll I might even have a hard time with the phones in the basket rule. LOL

RobynsWorld: @5minutesformom @itwixie @Annie_Fox Ohh - love the basket idea for the phones at dinner!

lcabreradelcid: RT @5minutesformom @iTwixie @Annie_Fox Texting at dinner/etcis a big no-no. Chez moi, phones go in basket... even urs!

5minutesformom: RT @annie_fox: Its a process, this parenting thing. An art, not a science.Lead w your heart & LISTEN more than u talk (to tweens)

lcabreradelcid: RT @annie_fox: @emilyrosedoll phones in basket it a great rule!

Annie_Fox: Talk to your kids about your life too. If you want them to open up to you, be open (appropriately of course) with them.

iTwixie: @5minutesformom LOLOLOLOLOL!

gooblythe: RT @annie_fox: Its a process, this parenting thing. An art, not a science. Lead with your heart, and LISTEN more than you talk

emilyrosedoll: @5minutesformom It would be the Macbook in the basket I'd have trouble with... is that a rule

RobynsWorld: @5minutesformom what gets hubby & I when we go out to eat is checking in on foursquare & whrrl - oops!

lcabreradelcid: RT @annie_fox: It's a process, this parenting thing. An art, not a science. Lead with your heart, & LISTEN more than you talk

Annie_Fox: I remember a friend of my daughter's used to call during dinner (pre-cell phone era) I had my DD say, "We're having dinner now"

safetyweb: Fill in & win: ___ refers to harassment or unwanted communication via some form of technology including computers, GPS...

gooblythe: RT @safetyweb: Fill in & win: ___ refers to harassment or unwanted communication via some form of technology including computers

Annie_Fox: Dinner should be special. Doesn't have to be top chef food, just open hearted and open minded dialogue. Park the judgment

Annie_Fox: Research says that families that eat together at least 3 times /wk have kids who do better in school & less high risk behaviors.

safetyweb: Internet Safety: Tips for Safe Teen Blogging http://blog.safetyweb.com/internet-safety-tips-for-safe-teen-blogging/

RobynsWorld: @Annie_Fox we go around & do 3 good things about each of our days at dinner - opens conversation & shows interest/support

5minutesformom: @annie_fox What about kids blogging? How old do you think they should be? Should they use fake names?

Annie_Fox: @5minutesformom If you've got a born writer, encourage them to blog! And subscribe to their blog and read it! Fake name? Maybe

5minutesformom: @annie_fox I agree completely. Encourage your child to blog, but then read it!

mobienthusiast: If your kids are on social media or have a texting cell phone, show them http://thatsnotcool.com

emilyrosedoll: @5minutesformom Emily (12) blogs and does her TV show. No fake name, I've got her back http://bit.ly/c6jx1f

gooblythe: @ RobynsWorld wow, that's so great! good for you.

safetyweb: @RobynsWorld That's such a great idea.

5minutesformom: @RobynsWorld That's a great idea for dinner conversation

annas04: @safetyweb cyberstalking

Annie_Fox: if you go to YouTube & search for anti-bullying PSA (public service announcements) there are gr* ones. Share w/your kids!

Dayngr: @annie_fox So true!

Annie_Fox: @emilyrosedoll I'm going to read Emily's blog. Thanks for pointing me there.

Dayngr: @cafesmom I will be the mean mom too.

5minutesformom: @emilyrosedoll I love it! Yes, help them use social media effectively and be business minded from the start. Awesome.

4evamamii: hey i made it!

paulakap8: @5minutesformom my son is getting bullied @ school what should I do

Annie_Fox: @paulakap8 I'm so sorry this is happening to him. What have you done so far?

paulakap8: @Annie_Fox called school talk to principal and they said if it continues parent meeting

Annie_Fox: @paulakap8 Good that you called the school

paulakap8: @4evamamii they seem like they don't care

Annie_Fox: @paulakap8 What's your son's theory about why this might be happening

paulakap8: @Annie_Fox okay I have done that and he said it's racial thing sadly

5minutesformom: @paulakap8 First, it's great that you know and you're getting involved... Let's see what @annie_fox says

Annie_Fox: @paulakap8 Stay on the case w/the school admin. Don't let them "forget"

paulakap8: @Annie_Fox oh I won't it's walking distance so I walk him to school and talk every day to his teacher to make sure he's okay

Annie_Fox: @paulakap8 I'm so glad to hear that he's got an ally in his teacher. Excellent!

paulakap8: @Annie_Fox yes the teacher is awesome thank goodness

4evamamii: @annie_fox good that you wont forget... it needs to be stopped!!

Annie_Fox: @paulakap8 You're doing a great job! Kids need to know that adults take their reports of bullying seriously and are responsive.

4evamamii: @paulakap8 whats that kid parents have to say about him being a bully? omg....it irks my nerves!!! i was being bullied as well

Annie_Fox: @paulakap8 That sounds pro-active. You need to let your son know that you're on this and you want him to let you know if it continues

paulakap8: @Annie_Fox oh I do I was bullied cause I was poor at a Christian school so I know how he feels

Annie_Fox: @4evamamii Welcome!

5minutesformom: @4evamamii Yay. Great to have you hear. Follow along at http://tweetchat.com/room/safetyweb

safetyweb: @annas04 You win! Congratulations.

busymommymedia: Almost missed.

annas04: yea!!!

5minutesformom: RT @assignmentdesk1: RT @mobienthusiast: If kids on social media or have a texting cell phone, show them http://thatsnotcool.com

lcabreradelcid: @Vielka si tienes tiempo, te recomiendo entrar a este twitter party

emilyrosedoll: have to jump off. Very interesting conversation. Will be checking tomorrow for thoughts on FB usage rules??

muffintinmom: RT @safetyweb: Internet Safety: Tips for Safe Teen Blogging http://bit.ly/bXtcIQ/ cc: @whatevernation

emilyrosedoll: Thanks @annie_fox and @5minutesformom

denisehterry: what's the right age to introduce a mobile phone to kids? is 7 or 8 too young? @annie_fox

4evamamii: @safetyweb below 18 years of age is too young for a cell phone, unless they get a job and pay their own bills!

Annie_Fox: @emilyrosedoll Glad you joined us! We'll post a transcript!

lcabreradelcid: RT @emilyrosedoll: Thanks @annie_fox and @5minutesformom

Dayngr: @annie_fox Thoughts on parents who blog their children's real names and photos? That concerns me deeply.

Annie_Fox: @Dayngr It's naive, to say the least. Of course there are lots of parents who are extremely "casual" in their parenting.

annas04: I gave my son a cell phone at the age of 7, but he could only call 5 numbers on it

muffintinmom: Cyberbullying, it's a passion of mine

4evamamii: @denisehterry yes too young... i think 16 is a better age

Dayngr: @denisehterry Personally, I think that is way too young.

Annie_Fox: RT @safetyweb: Internet Safety: Tips for Safe Teen Blogging http://bit.ly/bXtcIQ/

safetyweb: Answer this and win: What is the title of today's SafetyWeb blog post?

5minutesformom: @annie_fox Yes. Sadly, I think it is often the adults that drop the ball once the kids report the bullying.

annas04: @annie_fox I saw that on the news today about the research

mobienthusiast: @safetyweb Cyberbullying: New Evidence Shows Cyberbullying Victims Suffer High Risk for Depression

paulakap8: @safetyweb Cyberbullying: New Evidence Shows Cyberbullying Victims Suffer High Risk for Depression

4evamamii: @safetyweb Cyberbullying: New Evidence Shows Cyberbullying Victims Suffer High Risk for Depression

Annie_Fox: Its' all about continuing to educate our kids. Tech changes rapidly, but the rules for what's cool don't. Cruel's Not Cool! Ever.

HereUntilSold: Never stick your tongue in a blender. RT @safetyweb: Answer this and win: What is the title of today's SafetyWeb blog post?

annas04: wow, this has been very informative and I likes the info

denisehterry: Join the last part of Twitter party, win a free subscription to @safetyweb http://tweetchat.com/room/safetyweb

5minutesformom: @annie_fox Do you recommend getting police or lawyers involved if your child is being cyberbullied?

Annie_Fox: @5minutesformom For sure! Cyber-bullying is a recognized crime. Don't let school admins. blow you off. Demand action.

5minutesformom: @annie_fox I agree. If your child is being seriously cyberbullied, treat it like the crime it is and get action.

Annie_Fox: Another way to put power behind your demands for school action is to contact local media about a school's inaction.

Annie_Fox: Easy ways to educate your kids are anti-bullying PSAs On YouTube http://bit.ly/bfaraM Hard hitting! Makes the point!

Annie_Fox: Launched an anti-bullying forum for all stakeholders (kids, parents, educators) http://cruelsnotcool.com Gr8 Resources! on FB too

DrRobyn: @5minutesformom @anniefox Important topic. I talk about cyber-bullying in my book (as it pertains to #bodyimage). Lethal. #GGDGF

5minutesformom: @DShepherds Oh yes.... great point. Media attention to a school's lack of action is great way to get some.

Annie_Fox: Msg to your kids: if you wouldn't say it to someone's face then why write it? If social garbage comes your way, DELETE IT.

5minutesformom: @drrobyn Great to have you joining the discussion

lcabreradelcid: @annie_fox the thinkg there is that parents sometimes prefer to keep "things" quiet....unwise

CafeSmom: My kids are not on facebook but my SD12 was told that a kid posted pix of her from a school function w/ cutting remarks. So sad

mpclark3: Its great to see so many folks passionate about online and mobile safety. Thx for spreading the message!

5minutesformom: Great discussion going on here. And we all should remember that this all applies to us as adults too!

safetyweb: @mobienthusiast Congratulations! You win.

DrRobyn: @5minutesformom Couldn't agree more. Don't write it if you wouldn't speak it. Something adults AND kids need to learn these days.

Dayngr: Cyber-bullying is a recognized crime. Dont let school admins blow you off. Demand action

5minutesformom: @mpclark3 Thanks for joining in

Annie_Fox: Parents are powerful. We can educate ourselves and educate our kids to help change Culture of Cruelty

CafeSmom: That friend who is on fb had the kid take it down. Think some kids don't feel the internet is "real" or they can't get in trouble

Commnwlthparent: Awesome resource >> @annie_fox: Launched anti-bullying forum for all (kids, parents, educators) http://bit.ly/dhsLua

paulakap8: @5minutesformom yes it does!!!

Annie_Fox: Don't add the the (social) garbage). There's enough of it in this world already.

Annie_Fox: @Commnwlthparent Thanks for the shout-out. :O)

CafeSmom: @Dayngr Not my job 2 B my kids' pal. It's my job to raise them to be emotionally/physically/spiritually healthy and protect them

Annie_Fox: @5minutesformom Yes, the Don't add the the garbage msg absolutely applies to us adults too. Where do you think kids learned it?

DrRobyn: @Annie_Fox So much insulation comes from being behind a keyboard. People write freely not remembering people have feelings

Annie_Fox: Good night all and thanks for being with us. Hope this was helpful. Happy parenting

safetyweb: If you're on Facebook, please visit our page! We'd love to see you there. http://www.facebook.com/SafetyWeb

Annie_Fox: @drrobyn Yes, People have feelings and we all deserve to be treated with respect.

denisehterry: Thanks @annie_fox @5minutesformom @safetyweb for an engaging chat!

Annie_Fox: G'night!

Dayngr: @annie_fox Thanks for all you do! New follower here!

paulakap8: @5minutesformom goodnight!

lcabreradelcid: @annie_fox Good night and God bless you for all u're doing!!

safetyweb: Thanks @5minutesformom, @annie_fox and everyone for joining us. Lots of fantastic comments and information.

5minutesformom: Thanks everyone for joining this #onlinesafety discussion. Have a great night!

CafeSmom: @5minutesformom great discussion.Glad I saw the tweet. As a parent, you can always be learning. Committed to keeping my kids safe

mobienthusiast: @safetyweb cool! What did I win?

safetyweb: I will be sending a DM to the winners shortly. Thanks everyone!

Dayngr: @cafesmom Amen! I feel exactly the same way.

RobynsWorld: @5minutesformom good party! Thanks!

lcabreradelcid: @safetyweb @5minutesformom @annie_fox THANKS!

gooblythe: Goodnight @SafetyWeb Twitter Party!

Dayngr: @drrobyn So very true! re: People write freely not remembering people have feelings

DrRobyn: @Dayngr Not kidding. Happened to me! Wrote about it: Snap Judgments, Snarky Attacks and Wisdom From My Mom http://bit.ly/bQFsAk

safetyweb: Our winners all won a 6 month subscription to SafetyWeb.

iTwixie: @CafeSmom OMG - parenting is like getting another degree these days! LOL!

DrRobyn: @5minutesformom Thanks, happy to be here. @annie_fox is an awesome asset to our community. Smart lady with important messages

annas04: ty so much for the party, like I said, very informative and helpful. My son is 12 and he deals with some bullying, so ty

iTwixie: @gooblythe Gr8 Tweeting with you!

Dayngr: @5minutesformom Thanks for all you do for parents everywhere.

iTwixie: @safetyweb @AnnieFox Tx for a meaningful chat!

5minutesformom: @annie_fox Thank you so much for all your fabulous insight!

5minutesformom: Thanks again everyone... now I've gotta tuck my little girls into bed and say thanks that they still aren't yet online.

DrRobyn: @ShapingYouth Keep Doing What You Do! RT @DrRobyn @Annie_Fox "Chicken" 4 clucking abt KFC's sexualized #ads? http://bit.ly/9vlo8o

Dayngr: @drrobyn Looking forward to reading it. I shared our bullying story on my blog http://bit.ly/b7VOMj

EmilyRobertsLPC: Great Resource Thx RT @Annie_Fox: Easy ways to educate your kids anti-bullying PSAs On YouTube http://bit.ly/bfaraM

DShepherds: Thank you! RT @DrLynneKenney: @annie_fox @dshepherds can educate parents in LA for free Tshaka is amazing!