SafetyWeb Twitter Party Transcript with 5MinutesforMom and Annie Fox #SafetyWeb
Here the full transcript of our @SafetyWeb Twitter Party hosted by Annie Fox and 5MinutesforMom last week!
safetyweb: Hello everyone! Glad you're here with us.
safetyweb: We have SafetyWeb Certificates to give away. Each for a 6-month SafetyWeb subscription good for up to 2 children.
Annie_Fox: New school year and hopefully schools and parents are more aware of the potential problems w/uneducated online use.
Annie_Fox: And that's what it is on the part of the kids... they're just uneducated.
Annie_Fox: Love to take some questions from parents about bullying related issues. Who's got a question?
Annie_Fox: @5minutesformom Gr* question, Susan! There's no one correct "hint" but I'd say if the kid becomes increasingly secretive that may be a sign that there's something going on w/in their circle of friends online that they're uncomfortable with. Thus hiding.
Annie_Fox: When your gut tells you something's up... open your mouth and talk about what you're feeling and observing. That's proactive
Annie_Fox: Good rule of thumb... If you're kid has a track record of making good choices then why snoop? Don't parent from a "fear" place. It really pollutes relationships
5minutesformom: I've wondered about telling kids you might monitor their emails in similar manner to an employer.
fredo: I'm happy to answer some questions - Mike & I founded SafetyWeb because we are both dads and want our kids to be safe online.
iTwixie: We're all about safety at iTwixie - so many girls we have joining say FB freaked 'em out!
Annie_Fox: Chris, if the child is old enough to have a FB account, how about adding the parent as a friend. Are the kids willing to do that?
Annie_Fox: @crisgoode It's good for parents of teens to talk w/other parents of teens. Find out what they're comfortable with. Take your cues from them.... but stick with your values as a parent! You don't owe your child the right to be on FB as a 14 yr. old.
safetyweb: Who would like to try SafetyWeb for free?
iTwixie: What do you think about role-playing how to deal with cyber bullies?
DrLynneKenney: They just need an email
RobynsWorld: You really have to be firm on internet rules and don't give in - not power struggle, just parenting
Annie_Fox: Developmentally, teens are prone to high risk behaviors. They love the challenge of trying to outsmart you. Don't bite. Be open
bexperspective: You know I think people will always make their own decisions but I hope to help keep them more informed on safety...
safetyweb: First person to Tweet, "I want to make sure my child stays safe online" wins a free 6 month SafetyWeb subscription.
iTwixie: Accepting friends from the "wrong crowd" on FB can foster negative exposure without any messaging. What to do about that?
DrLynneKenney: Their stuff comes to my phone all day everyday BUT I know there remain risks. Sometimes I even feel scared about their future
iTwixie: We tell our kids, "If it makes u feel uncomfortable, get out of the chat/off the site/x out of the page"
DrLynneKenney: "I want to make sure my child stays safe online"
Annie_Fox: @gooblythe FB and PTA! That's GREAT news!!
Annie_Fox: We also need to make sure we're also aware of the kinds of communications coming down on OUR kid's cell
Annie_Fox: Parents need to give kids clear instructions about their behavior when you handed them a cell phone of their own.
emilyrosedoll: told my 12 year-old she can have a cell phone when she can pay for it
iTwixie: What about boys & girls texting each other... when is it appropriate?
Annie_Fox: Don't assume they "know" what's appropriate online or via text msg. They DON"T! Their "norm" is often meanness
lcabreradelcid: great topic
DrLynneKenney: : SOOO grateful for you all I admit - our tweens r exposed to stuff I didnt know til I was 19 @annie_fox
safetyweb: Another free 6 month SafetyWeb subscription...
safetyweb: Parenting: How Young is Too Young For a Cell Phone? http://blog.safetyweb.com/parenting-how-young-is-too-young-for-a-cell-phone/
CafeSmom: My other friend knows her DD will be to tempted and won't give her "the opportunity to fail" so no cell phone for her
5minutesformom: I remember a messy bullying issue when I was 12 yrs & school was involved, yet I don't think my parents even knew. Stay involved!
safetyweb: "------" simply refers to the act of bullying online. Fill in the blank and you win!
Annie_Fox: This gets into the "I don't want to be upsetting my little princess." Can't take away her phone. SHe'd hate me. Can't have that.
Annie_Fox: Rosalind Wiseman rocks! My interview w/her http://blog.anniefox.com/2009/12/07/podcast-queen-bees-go-hi-tech/
Annie_Fox: We need to give them reasons to put down the phone and engage in conversations that mean something to them. Not just LECTURES
Annie_Fox: It's a process, this parenting thing. An art, not a science. Lead with your heart, and LISTEN more than you talk (to tweens)
Annie_Fox: Talk to your kids about your life too. If you want them to open up to you, be open (appropriately of course) with them.
Annie_Fox: I remember a friend of my daughter's used to call during dinner (pre-cell phone era) I had my DD say, "We're having dinner now"
safetyweb: Fill in & win: ___ refers to harassment or unwanted communication via some form of technology including computers, GPS...
Annie_Fox: Dinner should be special. Doesn't have to be top chef food, just open hearted and open minded dialogue. Park the judgment
Annie_Fox: Research says that families that eat together at least 3 times /wk have kids who do better in school & less high risk behaviors.
safetyweb: Internet Safety: Tips for Safe Teen Blogging http://blog.safetyweb.com/internet-safety-tips-for-safe-teen-blogging/
Annie_Fox: if you go to YouTube & search for anti-bullying PSA (public service announcements) there are gr* ones. Share w/your kids!
4evamamii: hey i made it!
Annie_Fox: @paulakap8 What's your son's theory about why this might be happening
busymommymedia: Almost missed.
emilyrosedoll: have to jump off. Very interesting conversation. Will be checking tomorrow for thoughts on FB usage rules??
annas04: I gave my son a cell phone at the age of 7, but he could only call 5 numbers on it
muffintinmom: Cyberbullying, it's a passion of mine
safetyweb: Answer this and win: What is the title of today's SafetyWeb blog post?
Annie_Fox: Its' all about continuing to educate our kids. Tech changes rapidly, but the rules for what's cool don't. Cruel's Not Cool! Ever.
annas04: wow, this has been very informative and I likes the info
Annie_Fox: Another way to put power behind your demands for school action is to contact local media about a school's inaction.
Annie_Fox: Msg to your kids: if you wouldn't say it to someone's face then why write it? If social garbage comes your way, DELETE IT.
CafeSmom: My kids are not on facebook but my SD12 was told that a kid posted pix of her from a school function w/ cutting remarks. So sad
mpclark3: Its great to see so many folks passionate about online and mobile safety. Thx for spreading the message!
5minutesformom: Great discussion going on here. And we all should remember that this all applies to us as adults too!
Dayngr: Cyber-bullying is a recognized crime. Dont let school admins blow you off. Demand action
Annie_Fox: Parents are powerful. We can educate ourselves and educate our kids to help change Culture of Cruelty
CafeSmom: That friend who is on fb had the kid take it down. Think some kids don't feel the internet is "real" or they can't get in trouble
Annie_Fox: Don't add the the (social) garbage). There's enough of it in this world already.
Annie_Fox: Good night all and thanks for being with us. Hope this was helpful. Happy parenting
safetyweb: I will be sending a DM to the winners shortly. Thanks everyone!
safetyweb: Our winners all won a 6 month subscription to SafetyWeb.
annas04: ty so much for the party, like I said, very informative and helpful. My son is 12 and he deals with some bullying, so ty
5minutesformom: Thanks again everyone... now I've gotta tuck my little girls into bed and say thanks that they still aren't yet online.